God has used my sufferings to save sinners -- so I was told by a prophetic man of God.
Probably, one of the concrete beneficiaries of my sufferings was my mother who lived an adulterous relationship with my father, already a married man.
My father was petitioned to immigrate to California in 1979 together with his legal wife and the first family for "greener pasture."
He would go back to the country probably every two years to be with us.
While father was away, I would talk to my mother to try to end their sinful relationship. I would tell her, it's OK to be friends with him but "no strings attached" -- meaning, no bed activities whatsoever. She agreed.
One time, he never came back for five or so years.
After 10 years of no communication, father was suddenly back.
But the tone of Ma's story was already different.
She never kept what she agreed upon.
I rebelled, somehow. Ma told Pa, I kept telling her to sever ties with him as it was sinful.
They both knew their relationship was sinful because every time they went to Mass together, they would not take Holy Communion.
Father arranged an occasion to talk to me alone and told me it would be easy for him to leave my mother, had she been unfaithful to him for all those years he had been away.
So life went on.
Later in life, there was a time I was too sick to go to Mass on a particular Sunday. God would understand. I was exempted to attend Mass on that Sunday because I was very sick. But I bargained with the Lord that should I be able to attend Mass that Sunday, He would grant my prayer-request on Monday. In short, I had been given the strength to attend Mass despite my illness because I would be granted the prayer I would be asking Him in exchange for the Mass I would attend that Sunday.
The prayer-request I chose to ask from the Lord: for my mother to confess to a priest her adulterous relationship with my father!
To cut the story short, I was able to attend Mass that Sunday.
But I was not expectant God would answer that prayer. It was enough for me it made me able to go to Mass that Sunday.
Next day was a Monday.
Mother woke up at dawn to prepare to go to church! She had not been doing that.
I did not ask why and for what.
When she returned, her eyes were swollen and reddish as if fresh from shedding tears.
"What happened to you, Ma?" I asked.
"I just went to confession!" -- she said.
I gasped.
"What did you confess?" -- I asked again, excited for her reply.
She said, "My relationship with your father!"
After that, Ma was graced by God this way: Pa's legal wife called her up via overseas call and Ma was able to ask for forgiveness -- to her and to all her children. Mama was trembling talking through the phone. She was forgiven.
Fast forward, Ma had a heart attack and was able to recover. She was able to talk still and she used that opportunity to talk to my father over the phone, to end everything with both of them. Father was only listening to everything my mother said.
And then she had a fatal stroke so that she was already unable to talk. Out of desire, she "confessed" to a visiting priest who gave her extreme unction before she died days after.






